What is your sexual birthright and can you say, with 100% honesty, that you are able to fully embrace your sexual self without shame, embarrassment or fear?
That’s the topic of this week’s discussion with one of my oldest guests, Galen Fous, a sex therapist and educator.
During our conversation, we discussed the role of kink and the erotic in maintaining an active sex life, even with physical limitations. Galen encourages couples to have open and honest conversations about their desires and to explore the vast territory of pleasure beyond traditional friction sex. He also highlights the healing and empowering aspects of reclaiming one's sexuality.
Takeaways
Explore your authentic sexuality and embrace your sexual birthright.
Engage in open and honest conversations with your partner about your desires and fantasies.
Move beyond traditional friction sex and explore the vast territory of pleasure available to you.
Reclaim your sexuality and heal any past wounds or traumas.
Embrace the opportunity to deepen intimacy and connection with your partner through sexual exploration.
Sound Bites
"I'm still having sex at least three times a week and I'm talking about sex that is in the range of three to five hours per session."
"This is the great time of life. You know, this is your time to have the freedom to pursue what interests you and what excites you. And sex can certainly be a big part of that."
"To be honest, it's a very complicated at this stage when we have decades of indoctrination and programming and beliefs and stories and judgments and experience painful experiences and all those things now have are a big, those are all tangled up with your authentic sexual expression."
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Unique Perspective
03:12. Maintaining an Active Sex Life in Later Life
08:45. Embracing Freedom and Pursuing Sexual Pleasure
11:36. Untangling Beliefs and Programming
18:15. Moving Beyond Friction Sex
26:07. Exploring the Vast Territory of Pleasure
31:51. The Importance of Honesty and Courage
34:37Conclusion and Invitation for Further Conversations
Find Galen at : https://GalenFous.com
So refreshing to listen to this! Thank you Suzanne and Galen. I shut down my quite active sexual self around age 60 ( now 74) when due to post menopausal changes I couldn’t work out how to do sex any more. As a bi single older woman it was also not easy to figure out how to meet like minded others for ?? Non sexual sex?? Also strange that suddenly neither me or my friends who were part of the sexual revolution in the 70s, were talking about sex any more, when we used to talk about it all the time! But your conversation (one of the very few I’ve heard in the past 14 years!) has got me thinking about how to be more proactive on all this before it’s too late, so thank you so much!
So glad that we prompted you to consider how sex in later life could be pleasurable (but different than our younger days). I'm a great believer that how we experience sexual pleasure evolves with age and the number of birthdays we've had shouldn't have a bearing on that.
I'm meeting him this evening in Islington! Small world.
Hi Suzanne - random question but are you Suzanne Noble from Thornbury? Katherine
No, that's not me. :)
It’s so nice to hear from Galen again (we must have met in London years ago), and there are so many gems in this conversation, loved it! What stood out for me is that you will never get what you desire sexually if you don’t address it with your partner! Some people take their sexual desires to their grave, as Galen put it, never addressing them. Thank you, Suzanne and Galen!